Friendships do matter… (Goodbye 2017 – Looking Back #4)

The start of 2017 was hopeful. I had decided my Word for the Year is going to Focus and chosen a few things to focus on too. Friends matter to me, so I wanted to rekindle some friendships, and also make some friendships stronger.


At the beginning of the year, I hoped the year would be kind. While some parts were, the year was mostly a forgettable one. I was talking about it to a friend, and I really don’t remember much of it except for two trips, and a few meetings with friends. I thought, as the year dwindles down, it’s the right time to retrospect on those focus areas.

Expectation: Stronger friendships in 2017

They say friends don’t need to be in touch. If the friendship is true, one can pick up where one left off. Maybe that is true, but I think to ignore friends isn’t good either. I’ve lost a couple of friends because of lack of interaction with them, and that hurt. This year, I want to rekindle a few friendships, and become closer with a few I’m interacting with daily too. Be there when they need me, just as friends were there when I needed them.

How the year actually went:

The year tested this goal a lot. For a couple of months, I couldn’t pick myself up. I felt lost. Few couldn’t understand that. But some friends were there by my side even then. For that, I am truly grateful.

I lost a few friends this year too. One told me why, and I could understand that reason. Perhaps that friendship wasn’t meant to be. I apologised in case that reason was true, though I don’t know if it was. Another two just distanced themselves. No reasons. That did hurt. I wanted to know why. But that doesn’t always happen. It took time to let go, but I did. I wish them the best in their journeys, wherever it leads them.

I was quite happy to meet so many blogging buddies for the first time when I traveled out of the city for a blog meet for the very first time. Over three days, we had a lot of fun and made a lot of memories. That made a lot of difference to this year for sure. I wished it had been a bit longer.

Wondering what lies ahead in 2018 now…

(© Vinay Leo R. @ I Rhyme Without Reason,
27th December, 2017)


Poetry & writing are to me, a breath of fresh air in a life that is sometimes covered by the smoke of sorrow or self doubt. They also become the sweets I share to celebrate when life offers me a reason to. But most of all, they are to me, my life. For each word I write is a piece of my heart, a thought that just had to find its way into the world.

4 thoughts on “Friendships do matter… (Goodbye 2017 – Looking Back #4)”

  1. I think as we grow older, friendships change and some unfortunately end due to different paths. I can see that happening with a couple of mine this year as we move from close friends to probably those who will only catch up once or twice a year. The reason is they have had kids this year and that is not a path I wish to follow. Life takes us down different paths and when friendships end, it certainly hurts a lot and yet, maybe they were in our lives for a reason and that reason has now passed.

    I plan on making a trip to Bangalore next year when I visit India so hopefully, will get to meet you and other bloggers I’ve befriended over the years.
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    • Yes. I think that’s true. Some friends stay, others go their different ways. It does hurt, but I accept that. I just wanted to know why, but that’s not always possible I think.

      Oh nice! I hope to meet you too if that’s the case, Babby. 🙂

  2. Hey vinay leo i am also a poetry and song lyrics blogger and my zodiac sign is leo…. ?i think our life take twist and turns for a beautiful reason its just that we can’t understand it at the moment… And after so many years when we think about our past years then we realise that the decisions of god are important for our life ? like your friends who distanced themselves..
    Am i right or not…… …

    • Ah. Yeah. Life takes its own turns, I agree. 🙂 Whether it would feel right after many years, I can’t know for sure right now.

      Thank you, Megha. Welcome to my little blog.

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