Someone once said, “You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” That’s so true. Nobody’s perfect. Each of us have our own flaws, our own scars that have not completely healed. We’re like that mirror, broken and put back together. Some of the cracks can be seen very clearly.
If someone leaves at the first sign of that crack, that wound, that imperfection that’s so real to us, it’s painful. Be it love, marriage or friendship, that relationship had memories associated with it. Moments which were shared between two hearts that could be savored for a lifetime. When that someone walks away without giving a second chance, it pricks. That hurts more when they leave without telling us what it was that made them leave. Yes, they don’t need to give explanations. But that closure would help. What if that something could have been solved? Wouldn’t it have been worth solving? Forget relationships. Even life itself. Losing belief in something or someone’s ability at the first sight of failure doesn’t make sense. Second chances are important. Nothing and no one remains the same every time. There might be something positive that one learns from the first time that aids that second chance to be more successful, to help feel that yes, there’s something there worth holding on to.
That second chance can become a fresh beginning. Believing in second chances, and being open to sharing, accepting and forgiving those mistakes and flaws, makes all the difference.
(© Vinay Leo R. @ I Rhyme Without Reason,
9th July, 2017)