5 Lessons From Blogging

Linking this with #FridayReflections and #Daily Chatter #UBC Day 8.


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5 Lessons That I Learned from Blogging

#100DaysOfBlogging Day 16

It has been nearly a decade since I started blogging. What started out as just a way to clear my thoughts has become much more than that. The blogsphere has become a place where I do creative writing as well as learn from what I read at other blog spaces. Though I don’t really take notes on what I learn, some lessons are implicit, I feel. You absorb them without realizing.

1. Some acquaintances stay acquaintances. Others become best friends.

This is something I’ve found to be true. During the course of my blogging journey, I’ve read and become acquainted with many other bloggers. Some are from my city, some are from elsewhere in the country, and quite a few from across the globe. From the book Five People You Meet in Heaven, I took the lesson that people impact your life in ways you may not even notice. It’s not much different in the virtual world. Each blogger touches your life in one way or the other. One comes to know that some people are very talented just by reading few words from their work. Some put a piece of themselves into what they write (not literally, of course). So reading them, one can feel that there’s some truth to it. You can feel their joy or their despair, their hopes and their hopelessness, their strengths and their fears. It’s true. And it isn’t easy to reveal that part of their life through writing. There are very few who realize that, and step up to be there when you need them. And even fewer who will know you need them by your side even without you telling them. They can tear out the mask you put, look beyond that fake smile and understand you. Such people become best friends. And show that friendship isn’t always face-to-face, that distance does not matter if you connect through words.

2. Blogging helps to improve writing.

The only thing constant in life is change. One can change for the better, or the worse. When I began blogging, I wasn’t as passionate about writing. I was just looking to clear some thoughts. In fact, the first two years saw very few posts written. Once I began blogging in earnest, I didn’t look back. Initially, I didn’t care for grammar or tense, even punctuation. At times, the SMS lingo would creep into my work and I wouldn’t mind. It was acceptable. It was my blog, after all. Then I got a few readers, though most would just say, “Good post. I liked it.” A few of them, however, saw some potential in me. They suggested edits to my work. Leos are proud. At first, I didn’t take it seriously. But then I saw that their suggestions had merit. A blogger I met through a group blog helped me improve my poetry, showed me the freedom in poetic forms, in structure. Though I still write freestyle more, I wouldn’t have grown if it wasn’t for my experiments in poetic form. One of the bloggers pushed me to write fiction more. She told me I could become published if I put more effort into storytelling. I heeded that suggestion. Over the years, my stories have become better. Two stories in printed anthologies shows how much.

3. You have to read, to be read. But not all those you read, will come read you.

I think this is blogging basics. If you want readers, you’ve got to go read other blogs. It’s a way to let them know that you exist, there’s a blog where you write and that is worth reading. But just reading doesn’t suffice. What does help a blogger is getting comments. Many a time, friends have asked me, “Why are you so obsessed with comments?” To be frank, I’m not obsessed. It’s just that I love getting feedback on my work. Be it a word of praise, or a something constructive so I know where to improve, that matters a lot. But that’s something I cannot force. I’ve learned that I can read as many blogs as I want to, but not all those who you read will come back and read you. Bloggers can leave anytime, even after they begin to read you. It’s no use holding on. Few will claim to be busy, even when they aren’t. Few will stick by you even when they are busy. It’s all part of the journey. Take it in your stride, learn from it and move on.

4. Blogging does have its benefits, and not necessarily monetary.

Yes. I’m good at what I do, and I love doing it. But it’s not necessary that one has to take that talent and absolutely make money with it. There was a time when near and dear would scoff that I was writing on a blog and not getting anything out of it. For them, “anything” implied monetary benefits. Yes, there are people who do get those monetary benefits, and do blogging for that purpose. I hold nothing against them. I don’t do it to get that. But I’ve got peace of mind by blogging when I was down in the dumps. That cathartic touch was priceless. I’ve got friends who I know are true. Their presence has been vital at some time. I’ve got happiness by writing, and realizing that it was something I was meant to be doing. I’ve got the opportunity to be published in books and journals. That was a dream which became true. I’ve learned that money isn’t always everything, and that little things do matter.

5. One can grow and still remain the same.

There have been few bloggers who I’ve met, who have improved in leaps and bounds after blogging. It’s really nice to see that. They’ve reached heights that they’ve aspired to, and still continue to aspire to climb the ladder. There are a few from that few who’ve continued to look up and not remember those who have been by their side during the growth. Not just me, but in general. I don’t think that that’s the way the ball should bounce. One can grow and still be as one once was. I have grown, yes, but hopefully, I have not forgotten where I started out. And I want to continue doing the same.

These are few things I’ve learned from blogging. What have you?


From 23rd September, exactly 100 days are left in the year, the idea is to write on each of these days. A few other friends chose their own themes. I thought I’d collaborate with Aniesha bon on the challenge. We’re choosing topics on alternate days, and each day, we’re writing on the same topic too. I chose the topic LESSON for Day 16.

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(© Vinay Leo R. @ I Rhyme Without Reason, 8th October 2016)

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Poetry & writing are to me, a breath of fresh air in a life that is sometimes covered by the smoke of sorrow or self doubt. They also become the sweets I share to celebrate when life offers me a reason to. But most of all, they are to me, my life. For each word I write is a piece of my heart, a thought that just had to find its way into the world.

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28 thoughts on “5 Lessons From Blogging

  1. Blogging has taught me that I can connect with people from all over the world. Those relationships come and go, as you point out, but I’ve had readers from the United Kingdom, France, India, Australia and other countries. I’ve read their posts, seen their sunsets, admired their flowers, and followed the joys and sadness of their life. This has so enriched me.

    • Oh yes. That connect with readers from the world over, that’s a beautiful thing, and enriching too. 🙂 One of my poetry teachers was from the USA. Glad you could relate to my post, Alana.

  2. Hello!
    First time visitor here, courtesy Blogchatter:)

    This post was a really good read and your writing style is so clear and concise.
    Comments help, if they are constructive. I abhor things like ‘NicePost’ which people pass off as comments!
    I think I would like to use this topic and write a post on my blog too, as I was wondering what to write next. Thanks for the idea:)

    • Hello, Mayuri. 🙂 Welcome to my little blog.

      Glad you likeed this read and could relate to the constructive comments part. 😀 Do write on it when you can. I will read yours!

      Will return the visit once am home from office! 😀

  3. Wow, you’re writing for 100 days? That’s great. 😀 These five lessons inspire me to keep blogging. More importantly, blogging helps us discover ourselves gradually, get a better picture in our minds. And yes, comments play a key role… feedbacks are gems. 🙂
    (Dashy recently posted…First Year Troubles #MondayMusings)My Profile

  4. Congratulations on your almost decade of blogging. That’s amazing! I agree with all of your points. I haven’t made a cent from blogging and probably never will, but the love of writing and connections you can make keep me going. Visiting via#FridayReflections

  5. Agree with all of the points except making money😂.
    I think it’s great to love like and enjoy blogging .But is a go of energy which helps to make things interesting.
    So definitely if ypu can make money doing what you love,not compromising on standards and creating valuable content like this ,there’s really no harm in that.
    About blogging friends a special word:I love them all .They understand like nobody else does.

    • Like I said, I know people do make money doing blogging, and I don’t say that they shouldn’t. 🙂 I just said that I don’t do it for that sole purpose. Even I do sponsored posts when I get the chance, but people say that I should be doing it ONLY IF I get money for it. I don’t think that’s true. 😀 If you do enjoy creating valuable content and it earns you money, well and good!

      Friends who blog, and who I’ve met through blogging, a few of them have turned invaluable to me. 🙂 Thanks, Amrita.
      (Vinay Leo R. recently posted…5 Lessons From Blogging)My Profile

  6. Blogging has become something that consumes me. I want to learn everything I can about it, and I enjoy every second of it. It never feels like work because I love what I am doing. I have always been a creative person but I could never find the proper outlet to express my creativity, and now I feel like I can confidently say that I have.

    • Glad that you can confidently say that blogging helped you find that creative outlet, Novemberschild. 🙂 It is a wonderful platform, and indeed an enjoyable experience to learn all about blogging.

  7. Sir,
    As usual awesome blog, first time met you at last dailyblogging challenge and now again.
    Your profile and a pic has a special thing which gets imprint on my mind.
    Regarding the blog, I have started few months back, improved myself alot, and ya influnced by the bloggers to whom I come in contact and inspired by their drive to improve themselves again and again :), and my habit of reading also improved after watching the voracious readers among the bloggers.
    (Anshul Taran recently posted…Eden Gardens : My 1st International Match)My Profile

    • Glad to see you back, Anshul, and thank you for the kind words of appreciation. 🙂 It’s not often that someone compliments the gravatar, actually!

      Hope you continue to improve whatever aspect of your writing you want to, and become more voracious in reading as well. (I have to improve on that myself!)

      PS: Do call me Vinay, or Leo, and leave out the “sir”. 😉

  8. That is a lovely post Vinay! Blogging has made me discover a side of me that stayed under the wraps for years,on the pretext of being too busy,maybe later. It gave me a voice that is confident, uninhibited and echoed by many like minded blogger friends.

    • Ah. There are a few people I’ve met in the blogging world who are now constant companions in the real world too, Hemangini. 🙂 Glad you fould relate and that you loved the points.

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