Friday Reflections – Mind over Money

Written as part of Friday Reflections (Prompt: Your First Job).


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The Job – Mind Over Money

Friday Reflections #1

One thing I’ve realized is that life is all about expectations. There are expectations of you, ones you are expected to fulfill. And when they aren’t met, those who expect those things from you seem to go spiraling down a path of disappointment. Their expectation is a must-meet, I guess, and overshadows any expectation I have of myself, and any happiness I have while being the version of me I love the most. It was so when I had to choose my path after school, and it remains so today, more than a decade later, even when I’m holding down a job. People look at me and say, “No. You’re not doing right. You have to try for bigger things.” Bigger things, in their mind of course, means a more known company, and in direct relation, a bigger paycheck to get home at the end of the month. It irks me of course. I’m only human. But my point of view is different.

A good job doesn’t necessarily have to be about the money. It has to be about good colleagues, who know who you are and give you a boost when you need it. It has to be about you being in that environment that makes you grow as a person and as a professional. And yes, it needs to make you happy. A little less money for a lot more happiness is worth it, I think. And my first, and current job, gives me all that, and a purpose.

At this job, I do the work I’m “qualified to do” – developing websites and programming. It falls within my strong zone. It gives me, as well as my work, a voice that is heard by who I’m reporting to. That is an expectation of mine that’s fulfilled here. The catch, what some people use to argue with, is that the company is not in the IT sector. To them, it “doesn’t count”.

At this job, I get some breathing space. I have colleagues who are friendly, who make me feel at home with the project that I work on. They interact. At every interview I’ve attended, the people who I’m supposed to work with have looked like robots. I’ve gone past them; given them a smile, but they’ve continued to stare at the screen as if a moment’s break or a hello will bring the “work” crashing down. And the excuses for not hiring me have bordered on the insane. “Mr. Vinay, your English skills aren’t up to the mark. Our clients are from the USA.” or “Mr. Vinay, we regret to inform your salary demands were too high.” (Their offer is usually the same or lower than what I earn.) At least, when I first interviewed here, they were open and honest. They told their expectation of me, and I knew I could fulfill them. The next day, I had the offer letter in my hand. It was one of the happiest days of my life.

At this job, I still have some freedom to focus on my passion. When the pressure isn’t high and the boss trusts in me to deliver on time, it’s good. Some of my colleagues know of my passion for writing. They read, appreciate, and even give positive criticism. They know of my love for reading. They come to me for novel recommendations, or gift me books because they know I’ll love the gift. The last time I interviewed at a company, they saw that under hobbies and passions, and wanted to know if I’d be ready to give up the time I put for that and use that to focus on work as well.

At this job, there’s nature around me. I am a nature lover, and nature is something that inspires me a lot. Observing nature has helped me in improving the aspects of my writing that I love. The other places I’ve gone to for interviews have been concrete forests, or small rooms where five or six people sit working and the struggle can be seen on their faces as they work.

At this job, there is kindness. Make a mistake, and you are kindly told to rectify it. Those who work with me are kind enough to help me find the error if I have difficulty locating it. They are kind enough to lend money if you need it urgently, or give you a gentle push if they feel you’re slowing down and need inspiration. In a time when everyone seems to bother only about themselves and you have people forgetting the meaning of the words kindness and compassion, the support here is joyful.

As Harvey MacKay said, “Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about those who don’t. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would most likely be worth it.”

I wake up each day being happy with where I am. I spend time with those who love me for who I am and who make me better too. I believe I’m at this job for a reason, and I give it my best effort. I take the chances when I get, and don’t worry if I don’t. Life isn’t easy, that’s for sure. I have my ups and I have my downs. But this job, the people around me, friends and colleagues, the art and the world of writing… they make this life worth every breath.


(© 4th September 2015)

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Poetry & writing to me are to me, a breath of fresh air in a life that is sometimes covered by the smoke of sorrow or self doubt. They also become the sweets I share to celebrate when life offers me a reason to. But most of all, they are to me, my life. For each word I write is a piece of my heart, a thought that just had to find its way into the world.

28 thoughts on “Friday Reflections – Mind over Money

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  1. I really enjoyed reading this, I totally agree with what you write so beautifully here. My hubby and I live by this rule, we choose happiness over what we could be wearing elsewhere, every day satisfaction and joy far outweighs a higher pay for us. Thank you for sharing with #Fridayreflections

  2. Vinay, if everyone had jobs they enjoyed and felt fulfilled in, there would be a lot less troubles in the world. We spend so many hours at work, with our work “family” that to work in a job you are miserable in or with a supervisor who is harsh, makes life so difficult, and robs us of so much joy. I am blessed to be in a job that I love, working with people who are wonderful and supportive. No job is perfect, but it is important to find a job that “fits” you. Sounds like you are in the right place. The Harvey MacKay quote is so true, and a wonderful one to remember. Thanks for sharing.

    • Quite true, Cathy. I guess what irks me is that there are some people who try to push their idea of my job onto me. And they don’t accept that even I can be right in my choice. I know I’m happy, and that’s important. Thank you for dropping by. 😀 The Harvey MacKay quote is one of my favorites!

  3. As long as you have a purpose in life and towards what you do, you are on the right track. And I agree, a better environment, helping colleagues and a friendly boss is worth leaving a better paid job. At the end of the day what matters most is self satisfaction and happiness in what you did.

  4. Sweet post, Vinay. I agree, happiness over money any day. I am glad that you got an awesome group of people to work with. My first job experience was rather horrible. This was a delightful read. 🙂

  5. I love this post, the quote from Harvey Mackay that may now be my favourite quote (previously I had never read it before), and your musings over your job. It’s so awesome to hear about people who are happy doing that they are doing. I hope that I am finally in that place after many years of searching 🙂 #fridayreflections

    • It is one of my favorites, Janine. 😀 I find it hard to choose one quote as favorite. 😀 Glad you liked the musings, and I hope you are happy at your job too! Thanks for the visit.

  6. It is a wonderful, wonderful post, Vinay! I wish my Mom could have read it. It is easy for people to dole out advice on the “shouldave” and “couldave” and it takes tremendous strength of mind to recognize your happy place and stay there. I admire you for this post and your superb attitude. <3

    • I wish your mom, wise as I know her to be through your words, could have read this too, Vidya. 🙂 I’d have loved it.

      Yes, there are a lot many “shouldave” and “couldave” going around. Every person wants to say their piece and each believe they’re right.

      If I break my head on every piece, I’d not have time for anything else, no? 😛 Glad you liked the post, and my attitude. Thanks!

  7. WOW…Spicy Saturday pick !! Congrats 🙂
    You know what, you seem to resonate my thoughts on job markets – if you have time please do read my recent post to my daughter !
    I love the way you’ve analysed your job’s every aspect and how it agrees with your personality and I’m super duper glad of finding people like you, where you just don’t make a living working in concrete jungles but living it happily and with a lot of passion too !
    And I stopped to laugh “Your English is not good” — Ohh !! Really !! Ask them to read what you write !!

    • Thanks! 😀 It’s the first time a post of mine is being chosen! Happy, and hoping it happens again.

      I will come by and read your post soon, Uma. And I’m glad you like my post. The place I work at is not exactly a concrete jungle, so I think that makes a lot of difference.

      I did ask them to do that, but they say I can’t hold a conversation with a foreign client and impress them. So I don’t know. 😛 I’ve to talk to a foreigner over phone and see. 😉

  8. Very interesting post/ Loved reading it. Happy to know that you like your job. These days it has become a fashion that people criticise their job/boss.
    Congrats that your post was selected by Saturday Spice.

  9. Same story.. with the difference that I started my work because there wasn’t any other job that was available. Moreover, after seeking all the options, teaching seemed to be the best. I knew that I teach good and it does give me joy when I see all the contented faces, but it would be something that I love.. Well I didn’t see that coming! And I am so glad that I did. My pay scale is not very high, but the level of satisfaction that I get after finishing each class is inexplicable! So yeah.. hi-fi from my side 🙂
    Good to know that you’re doing something that you love!

    Cheers

    • Oh. That was one of my reasons too, I had to start some place. 🙂 Though it was a blessing in disguise that I ended up where I am.

      You’re a teacher? How lovely. 😀 I wanted to get into teaching at one time, but that didn’t work out.

      Pay isn’t that important always, but happiness and satisfaction is! Hi5, Geets. :mrgreen:

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