A Family Member
Week 4 – Thankful Tuesdays
“Sibling relationships…outlast marriages, survive the death of parents, resurface after quarrels that would sink any friendship. They flourish in a thousand incarnations of closeness and distance, warmth, loyalty and distrust.” – Erica E Goode
Dear girl (who first stole my heart),
The first five years of my life are a blur. I can only remember few things that happened in that time. True, memories usually don’t last that long, but I do remember some things, which is good. But when you came into my life, a few months short of my fifth birthday, my life became more meaningful. I didn’t realize it immediately, but now, thinking back, it definitely did. For the first time, I was a brother. Yes, those around us added the word “cousin” before it, but that didn’t matter to me. I had a sibling, a friend and she was so little. I thought of your name, and I was happy to run up flights of stairs chanting it like a mantra so I wouldn’t forget it when I reached your mother’s side.
I’m thankful to God that you came into my life. I was alone before that. When you came, I had a friend to play with outside of school. I’m thankful that you adored me when you were little. It made me happy, and protective of you. I’m thankful we got to go to school together, cycling through the rain, sometimes you’d sit on my bag-stand and I could tell you were my sibling. No “cousin” word involved. Even to this day, some of my friends think you are my sister. And you are. I’m thankful I could teach you things. Teaching you to hit a backhand shot in badminton took longer than ever, I remember. I could teach you carom and tutor you in Mathematics, because I’d taken the same lessons five years before you.
I’m thankful to you for helping me keep my love for books alive. It is partly because you keep reminding me of books, and our fanaticism for the Harry Potter series, that I keep reading. And am glad you are there to remind me of my dream once in a while, asking me when it’ll come to fruition. I’m thankful that you, who have known my and understood my failures more than anyone else, have never made fun of it or put me down in front of others for it.
I’m thankful that each year, there’s a day just to celebrate the sibling bond, and that you tie a rakhi to me, and I can gift you something. You are my family, and though it might seem odd to others, you’re the one I feel closest to. It’s the memories that have you in it that are the most memorable to me, and very precious. And this is just to let you know that your support is priceless to me, that I love you beyond words, and I’m glad you’re there.
(© 27th January 2015)